Article- When is it the right time to have sex as a single Mom?

This is not a comment about relationships.
It is about SEX and the Single Mom.

There are only ten things I ask myself (in my mind, anyway)

1. Am I physically attracted to this individual?
2. Do I feel like having sex tonight?
3. Are my children in safe hands and have I got time now or should I reschedule for practical reasons??
4. Do I have my own transport or cab fare to make a quick get away if it is not all as I'd like it to be?
5. Would this individual be someone that I could envisage a relationship with?
6. Does someone else know where I am / Does this individual appear to be in too much of a hurry / Could he be an axe-murderer?
7. Will I regret a quick, spontaneous, casual session with this individual? (I always listen to the gut here)
8. Have I had too much to drink and is this the martinis talking?
9. Have I taken precautions against STDs and preganacy?
10. What happened the last time I had casual sex?

ANSWERS

1. Yes....O.K....maybe
2. Well....it's been a while....definitely
3. My babysitter is paid by the hour, is now asleep in front of the TV and the kids are out to it until 7.30am. Looking good.
4. I drove myself as I always do.
5. This is not my kind of guy really but basically cute and attractive enough (if I sense a keeper, I would always confirm my senses with another two or more dates.)
6. I phoned the babysitter and told her I'd keep her posted on my time of arrival (as is our habit).
7. So far he seems very relaxed, flirtatious but not desperate, no signs of passive/aggressive behaviour.... the feeling is good...
8. If I'm on a date and when I'm driving I am always careful to have two drinks maximum so I am always in control.
9. I am not on the pill so a condom is a pre-requisite for any potential sexual partner and I'd always recommend to sneak a peek after to assure yourself that there is no leak. Actually I have a habit of surveying people's lips as well for any slight bumps or redness as a kiss can leave you with a lifetime of herpes blisters(wherever they kiss you!...Eeeuuw).
10. Oh, yeah, the last time I succumbed to the temptation of a hot, spontaneous night of wild passion, I ended orgasmless, sweaty and sticky, hideously disappointed in him and also in myself, he rolled over and sighed 'what a great set of hooters I had' and I left to drive myself home wondering how my 10 super-well thought out questions could have failed me, and thank God I didn't get anything on my lip!

In all honesty, I am the best at achieving an orgasm for me, my kids are my inspiration, I enjoy my own company, I am working hard to be financially stable, I have a few great friends who I catch up with from time to time for that essential adult company....................so now I just skip all other questions and go to no. 5 , do I want to go on a date two, three or there-after?... because when all is said and done, the package deal is the only advantage of a man in my life (it's what I'd always preferred anyway) and it seems to take a bit of research to get to the real deal.

Article by Jessica Long , Feminist, Writer, Single Mum